Ibunka! - Unit 7 / OSF 7

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『Ibunka!』のUnit 7とOSF 7のデジタルブックです。

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7 Romance and Relationships

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You and Your Culture Part 1

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WARM-UP SURVEY

Answer the following questions about your daily life.

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Which of these do you think is a stronger sign of love between partners?

Would you like to get married or live with a partner in the future? Why or why not?

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1. First, write your answers to Questions 1~5 in full sentences, giving reasons and opinions where you can.

INTERVIEW

Q1: What kinds of actions do you think are romantic? ...............................................................................................................................................................................................................

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Q2: Which of these do you think is more important in a relationship: to talk openly and honestly about most things, or to be able to notice your partner’s needs without words? ...............................................................................................................................................................................................................

Q3: Who usually pays the bill when you are on a lunch date with someone? ...............................................................................................................................................................................................................

Q4: What kinds of things do you think are important to do together with your long-term partner? ...............................................................................................................................................................................................................

Q5: Would you like to get married (or live with someone) in the future? ...............................................................................................................................................................................................................

2. Ask the survey questions to three classmates and make notes of their answers.

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When I was a student in the US, I found it very strange that people called me romantic all the time just because of my French nationality.

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And in fact, I was shocked whenever I went out with couples. Often they were all over each other, holding each other, kissing, and calling each other cute names. In France, that behavior is considered quite rude by people you are with (your friends or your family), as if you are excluding them or ignoring them.

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COMPREHENSION 1

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Q2 Do you think it’s important that couples discuss everything, or should people be able to understand their partner’s needs without words?

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Which one of the survey responses on pages 47 and 48 was most interesting to you? Explain your choice, using the patterns below as a starting point. Then discuss it with classmates.

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When I met my Japanese boyfriend (who later became my husband), I thought we could have frank discussions about anything. But that was before we got serious.

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For me, it’s only after having a good discussion that you can really empathize with someone. If you just try to guess their feelings, the chances are high that you’ll be mistaken a lot of the time.

My wife and I are both supposed to be adults. So I feel that I shouldn’t have to explain everything to her. But when we need to make a decision, she insists on discussing everything in detail. I sometimes feel that she is like a robot that can’t deal with real human emotions. It’s frustrating, but we’re both making an effort to bridge the gap.

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7 Romance and Relationships

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Here are some more responses from the Ibunka Survey on the topic of romance and relationships. Let’s examine them for underlying cultural trends. We can see that the language in many responses hints at four basic patterns.

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CULTURAL PATTERN A: Understanding through discussion

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CULTURAL PATTERN C: Having friends in common is desirable In some cultures, people think that it’s important that couples have mutual friends and do activities together.

CULTURAL PATTERN D: Having separate friends is more comfortable In other cultures, many people think that it is easier and more appropriate if each partner has their own set of friends, since one’s friends may not have much in common with one’s partner.

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