Ibunka!_Unit 9 / OSF 9

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『Ibunka!』のUnit 9とOSF 9のデジタルブックです。

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Part 1 You and Your Culture

SURVEY WARM - UP

WARM-UP SURVEY

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1. First, write your answers to Questions 1~5 in full sentences, giving reasons and opinions where you can.

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Q2: What do you think is the most appropriate bedtime for a six-year-old child? ...............................................................................................................................................................................................................

Q3: For you, when was the most enjoyable stage of your childhood? ...............................................................................................................................................................................................................

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Q5: In your opinion, when a couple has a baby, do you think it’s normal that their life becomes centered on that child? ...............................................................................................................................................................................................................

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Q1 Until what age did you sleep in the same bed as your parents (if you did)?

1 I probably never slept in the same bed as my parents. I was put in a crib from a very young age. Then my parents probably put the crib and me in another room very soon after that, when I was just a few months old. In my country, privacy for parents is very important. The parents’ bed should remain a place for the couple, not for the family.

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2 In the UK, many people think that if little children sleep in the same bed as their parents they will never “cut the cord,” that is, become fully independent from their parents. So it’s largely frowned upon.

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Since I started living in Japan, my thoughts on children having their own rooms have changed. I used to think they should sleep in a separate room from birth, but later I came to think that this should happen when they start school. Now, I think it should be only when they feel ready. Sleeping with my kids was so cozy and intimate.

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COMPREHENSION 1

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Q2 In the culture you grew up in, would you say that the general attitude toward children is strict? How about in other cultures you have lived in?

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Which one of the survey responses on pages 59 and 60 was most interesting to you? Explain your choice, using the patterns below as a starting point. Then discuss it with classmates.

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COMPREHENSION 3

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I get the impression that mothers in Japan are expected to devote all of their time and energy to their children. It seems that they almost stop being individuals while they are raising their children, and only get their life back when the kids leave the nest. But maybe it’s less true of the younger generation.

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I have always been struck by how much some Japanese parents pamper their children. I see my wife’s relatives sleeping in the same bed as their kids, preparing their meals, even letting them choose the family dinner menu. I sometimes worry that these children will never learn any responsibility.

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But once they leave the house, these same kids are amazingly mature. Many small children walk by themselves to school, and carry out many duties in their classrooms, such as serving lunches and cleaning the school. This gap between indulgence and discipline is pretty startling for many Westerners I’ve spoken to.

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9 Parents and Children

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Here are some more responses from the Ibunka Survey on the topic of parenting. Let’s examine them for underlying cultural trends. We can see that the language in many responses hints at four basic patterns.

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CULTURAL PATTERN A: Parenting is centered on the child

CULTURAL PATTERN B: Parenting is based on rules and manners

In some cultures, many parents indulge their children, and often give them unconditional support (as seen in the Australian person's response on page 60).

In other cultures, children are taught the social rules and etiquette of society in a rather strict way (as seen in the French person's response on page 60).

Read through the Ibunka Survey responses below. Highlight in one color the words and phrases that hint at Cultural Pattern A: Parenting is centered on the child, and in another color the parts that suggest Cultural Pattern B: Parenting is based on rules and manners. You can work and discuss this in pairs or small groups.

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CULTURAL PATTERN D: Parents and children sleep together

CULTURAL PATTERN C: Parents and children sleep separately

In other cultures, small children are viewed as fragile beings who need to be nurtured and protected, so they sleep with their parents. The family generally sleeps as a group.

In some cultures, children are made to sleep by themselves from a young age. This is to help them become independent, and also to allow parents to have intimacy as a couple.

Read through the Ibunka Survey responses below. Highlight in one color the words and phrases that hint at Cultural Pattern C: Parents and children sleep separately, and in another color the parts that show Cultural Pattern D: Parents and children sleep together. You can work and discuss this in pairs or small groups.

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