Ibunka!_Unit 9 / OSF 9

9 Parents and Children

One Step Further ACTIVITIES

Here are some more responses from the Ibunka Survey on the topic of parenting. Let’s examine them for underlying cultural trends. We can see that the language in many responses hints at four basic patterns.

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CULTURAL PATTERN A: Parenting is centered on the child

CULTURAL PATTERN B: Parenting is based on rules and manners

In some cultures, many parents indulge their children, and often give them unconditional support (as seen in the Australian person's response on page 60).

In other cultures, children are taught the social rules and etiquette of society in a rather strict way (as seen in the French person's response on page 60).

Read through the Ibunka Survey responses below. Highlight in one color the words and phrases that hint at Cultural Pattern A: Parenting is centered on the child, and in another color the parts that suggest Cultural Pattern B: Parenting is based on rules and manners. You can work and discuss this in pairs or small groups.

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